BE ON GUARD IN YOUR MARRIAGE COUNCIL
A True Story of how the devil can destroy a marriage. This is warning to the Church.
INTRODUCTION
The True story of marriage, one of a number destroyed by a power hungry (so called) Pastor who preys on people, especially women, who hear what they want to hear.
2Ti_4:3 The time will come when people will not listen to sound doctrine, but will follow their own desires and will collect for themselves more and more teachers who will tell them what they are itching to hear.
Isa_30:10 They tell the prophets to keep quiet. They say, "Don't talk to us about what's right. Tell us what we want to hear. Let us keep our illusions.
Eph 4:14 Then we shall no longer be children, carried by the waves and blown about by every shifting wind of the teaching of deceitful people, who lead others into error by the tricks they invent.
Psa 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.
What a sorry case it is for a human being to challenge God, to break up a marriage for self gain, for winning favour, for being stood up-to, for being self centered and not putting Gods Will first!
God hates divorce!
God is a God of LOVE. Marriage was created for LOVE for JOY with Christ as the HEAD!
A human will pay dearly for putting what Gad has put together......asunder!If a pastor counsels a married couple it becomes that pastors duty to shepherd that marriage until the marriage is rescued. Marriage is sacred to God, but not to man.
Marriage is part of Gods plan from the beginning. It is ordained by God Himself and it is the foundation of the Church.
A STRUGGLING MARRIAGE
A Christian couple recently received council from a female (a so called) pastor South of Johannesburg in South Africa which destroyed their marriage. The couple, in their second marriage, had been estranged for some weeks and attended the Church of the (so called) pastored and were re-united.
The husband had been saved for some years but the wife had not. Their marriage rocky and had been a tremendous challenge for both spouses and a prime target for satan.
The (so called) pastor began counselling the couple and was told by the husband of the couple that they had received numerous council from another Pastor of a rather large Church which the (so called) pastor had "Graduated" from in the past. The (so called) pastor became openly upset, warned the husband never to compare her council with that of the other particular pastor again.
She dominantly and threateningly asked the husband if he understood her warning and said that her council had never failed a couple in her past, and would never fail a couple in the future. The warning was so belittling to the husband that he almost stood up to expel the (so called) pastor from his home, but at the last moment decided otherwise.
INSUFFICIENT INCOME IN THE MARRIAGE
The couple continued to receive council from the (so called) pastor over the following months. Things turned worse. The husband had recently lost his business and although the (so called) pastor had organised the couples husband a job with her brother in-law, the husband did not earn an adequate income.
FIRST MISTAKE: The (so called) pastor counselled the wife and husband separately. The wife had the advantage. The (so called) pastor begrudged the husband for not being able to provide adequate income. The wife began preying on this defect. The husband knew that finance are not grounds for divorce and contested this. He was told that Gods Word says clearly a man must provide income for his family.
The husband began noticing irregularities in the (so called) pastor's behavior which became a stumbling block in the counselling. Any man who confronted the (so called) Pastor and did not perform to her liking was belittled and victimized. She did not like being challenged by a man. She furthermore spoke of her husband openly in an unfitting manner when he could not meet her demands.
PASTORAL TANTRUMS
The (so called) pastor had the habit of throwing severe and regular tantrums at her people when things weren't to her liking. Belittlement and victimization became the fear factor for people in her congregation. The "sheep" were there trying to heal their wounds, trying to find solace and were obviously reluctant to confrontation.
However, the (so called) pastor knew when to sweet talk to win favour. Regular apologies followed the many tantrums.
THE SO CALLED PASTOR
THE HUSBAND
We know who will win the ultimate battle. Jesus has made that quite clear!
THE RESULT
Updated 23 January 2014
THE WOMAN
- On the ground - the result is a couple that were once deeply in love, separated for two years.
- A woman who does not have a close enough relationship with God, who is easily led against God's will by the false pastor, and who obeys the devil and thinks she is obeying God.
- A woman who gives into satan every day as he works through her children who hate God.
- A woman who has every excuse not to restore the marriage, but rather break it and the husband down.
- A woman who it seems has again found someone who will listen to her and say what she wants to hear, and be encouraged to follow through with divorce proceedings.
THE SO CALLED PASTOR
- A so called pastor who couldn't care less, displayed by her actions and "ungodly council", her refusal and any excuse to take responsibility for putting asunder what God has put together.
- A supposed servant of God with a congregation that are falsely confused by her "sheepskin".
- A normal human being taking authority over God and telling the wife to move out of their bed and the main bedroom.
THE HUSBAND
- A husband that has prayed earnestly and trusted God to restore the marriage because firstly he is deeply in love with his wife and he knows God wants the marriage restored.
- A man who was treated like a dog, refused food in his own home, ridiculed and belittled by the so called pastor.
- Who was made a leader soon after joining the so called pastors congregation, but never once asked to open pray in meetings.
We know who will win the ultimate battle. Jesus has made that quite clear!
....to be continued.......
